10 Honestly Brutal Life Lessons Nobody Is Going to Tell You About

Life is definitely going to throw lemons at you. It should be your choice to master the art of making lemonade.

Let’s start this “talk” being very straightforward — Nobody, even your closest friend or family, is going to teach you these brutal life lessons. I am no master who figured out how to excel in life. But with certainty, I can only share what I have learned over time. Because why not save some of your time with straight to adapt “wisdom”!

1. Chop Chop Nobody Cares
   And why would they?
   Everyone is having their things going on. If you are dealing with emotional trouble or financial trouble there will be people with sympathy out there. But nobody is gonna live it for you. Because honestly, everyone is dealing with one or the other thing on their own.
   Figure out the solution to your problems and prioritize yourself over anything. Take the lead and sort it. The only good- you will come out smarter and wiser than before. Worth the deal!
2. Spend More Time With Self
   Care for self- know your favorite food, your favorite restaurant in the city, places you love to visit, what excites you- basically, anything that makes you know better about yourself. This self-discovery will help you set more realistic goals and understand your strengths & weaknesses.
   Practice this- spend some time with yourself daily. Address the things that bother you and understand the underlying emotions. Dwell deep to know what you absolutely love to do (you might not be perfect at it, but that’s okay! Let’s not judge). Do more of it.
3. Don’t be afraid to take risks
   Sometimes, nope, Always! - you have to take that risk to reach the next level. A lot of doubts cloud you as you think of taking that next big step. But here is the truth- Nothing great was achieved with procrastination.
   Take the smart risk (yes, the term exists!). Calculate what’s at stake and always know your capabilities before jumping in. Trust your strengths and make the move, it won’t disappoint you!
4. Don’t make decisions when you’re emotional
   Those are impulsive and surely will send you on a guilt trip later!
   Anger or love, any emotion can trigger impulsive and impatient behavior. Don’t do or say things when you are in the ‘zone’.
   The best decisions are made with a clear and sound mind. So take a step back and think through. Send that email or text message, place that call, or tell them how you feel after 12 hours when the feeling triggers for first.
5. You don’t need to please everyone
   You anyway can’t!
   Listen to everyone, they have got experience. But do what you feel like. Even when you fail at it terribly at the end. Because let’s admit, we have learned more from our failures than from anyone and anything.
   Improve over time by learning from your own things. You have your own growth curve, adore it. Your growth does not come with a deadline and certainly does not seek anybody’s validation. Listen to respect, not to follow!
6. Read more books
   And if not already, START READING!
   Don’t only read it because you want to impress the girl next door, or talk big, or want to become a nerd. Read it for the stories and imagination and all the possibilities out there. Here’s a secret: I got a startup idea from one of the books I read this year!
   The world of books is full of wisdom and possibility. Unlike people, books are not preachy and don’t expect anything out of the talks they are doing. Take your own time to read, process, and implement. The book friendship is real!
7. Live one day at a time
   And one change at a time!
   You don’t have to become a unicorn in a day. Take your time because growth itself means “the process”. And process happens in bits, not overnight.
   Take one day at a time and try to implement the changes. Maybe wake up at 5 am one day and work on your diet the next day or the next week.
   You don’t have to become perfect because others are. You have your own pace and so did the other person. Don’t try to understand all the concepts in a day!
8. Don’t make assumptions
   I lost some good relations on assuming. My honest advice: don’t assume, EVER!
   Jumping to the conclusions is a story of almost every mind. Our mind is dominated by the content we consume (Instagram, Quotes, Stories of people around us, etc). We assume the worst scenario because that’s what has happened with someone. It’s Not Your Story!!
   Don’t assume based on someone else’s experience of the same. Your experience will be way different. Because different human, different story.
   Trust your instincts but do not assume your instincts.
9. Start working out
   I am not talking about getting those abs!
   Workout, even if it is for 45 mins a day and includes only walking! Any kind of workout helps you reduce excess fat from the body, boost muscle power and increase cardiovascular fitness. Your workout is supposed to make you feel good and energetic. Try different ones and see what suits you the best. Even if it does not give you the abs, it is still the best.
   And do not forget to put your favorite music on.
10. “Don’t listen to what they say, go see”
    Even if it is a famous old eatery- a few blocks down the road!
    Stories, views, perspective, people- a very few perks you get from traveling! Can’t go far? Cool, explore your city. Much of us are unaware of the hidden gems. Here’s a secret: Ask your parents about the decades-old established part of your city. Go there and talk to old people. Explore that small little eatery in huge demand among locals. Visit the famous and not-so-famous spots in your city. Learn from the history, the people, the marvels they have left behind, and the stories they hold. Attend that low-key festival that happens every year.
    A lot is hidden in the local food, old architecture and with old people. Do not miss it for the world!

The key to being successful is — learn and grow. Do not quit on a failure. Nobody is going to take your hand and walk on the path with you. Face everything and grow strong.